Divorce can be an emotional and challenging experience. It’s not uncommon to feel as though everything is going to fall apart. You may be unsure of how you will live the rest of your life after the divorce. Mediation offers a way to work things out before a judge gets involved and imposes a decision. Here are some tips on what you should do beforehand:
Save Time and Money
Preparing for divorce is hard, and it usually involves a lot of time and money. Mediation can help to speed up the process, saving you time and money. It also means that neither party needs to be present in the courtroom for the divorce proceedings, so if one person has an illness or disability, they can avoid court entirely.
There are many advantages to having a mediated settlement over going through litigation in court. For example, mediation is more likely to result in an agreement that both parties can live with. It will also take less time than litigation because it involves only one party instead of two or three parties who need to go back and forth with their lawyers.
Many common misunderstandings cause problems with communication. There are also many obstacles to communication. For example, an angry person is not likely to listen. We need to communicate clearly if we want the mediation process to work.
A few ways of communicating are:
- Ask for what you want or need rather than demanding it,
- Use “I” statements rather than “you” statements.
- Speak slowly and calmly,
- Be willing to listen,
- Speak for yourself without attacking your partner,
- Do not interrupt or talk to your partner.
Take Care of Yourself
The divorce process is not easy, and it can be complicated to keep life running smoothly. One way that divorcing couples fight the stress is to take care of themselves and their families. This means that they need to take care of their physical, emotional, and financial well-being.
Care for yourself during a divorce:
- Make sleep a priority by going to bed at a reasonable hour instead of staying up until 2 am editing pictures from your honeymoon.
- Strive for healthy living by eating a balanced diet and including many fruits and vegetables in your diet.
Consider Meeting the Mediator Privately
The mediator will help a couple sort out their differences and plan for the future without going to court. It is usually a good idea for couples to attend mediation with a third party, such as a mediator. This way, they can have an outside perspective on the issues and how to resolve them.
Accept Doing Difficult Things
Divorce is a hard decision for any couple to make. To make the transition more accessible, couples need to consider normalizing the difficulty of divorce before deciding to do it. This may help them realize that the difficulty of divorce will not be a long-term factor in their lives and that they will still have a future. Make the process as easy as possible. This means making it seem like an ordinary event. The more you can make it seem like something you do all the time, the less overwhelming it will be.
Divorce is a sad thing and often the only way to end a marriage. However, it is also a legal procedure that can be made easier with the help of the mediators. Mediation divorce allows parties to split their assets, make decisions about children and financial support, and finalize any other issues without going to court.